My physio, Ed Wilson, used to be 1st team Physiotherapist at Bristol Bears Rugby. He’s the only therapist able to get results with my husband’s complicated back, so I’m a fan.
Your colleague asks you:
“I’d like your thoughts on whether we should go with decision A or decision B?”
And you say:
“I don’t care.”
How would they feel?
If your diary is always neatly organised, never gets double-booked, and you have plenty of time to go for a bike ride over lunch, then this message may not be for you.
What unproductive behaviour is routinely practiced and rarely challenged – in fact you might be rewarding it?
Last year, I saw Derren Brown perform and was predictably blown away. He uses body language and other cues to pick audience members who are incredibly susceptible to hypnosis – which makes it look effortless.
I’m giving up being a coach right NOW.
^^^ That was my brain overreacting when I heard these words….
“Can I have a word? I want to give you some feedback about something that happened in our coaching session the other day.”
“Weirdly I feel like he’s enjoying the adrenaline a little bit – but it’s not great for his health long term – I think he’ll crash at some point!”
I know what you’re thinking, why is his wife even part of the coaching programme? But who better to give an honest insight into one of his key aims: to be more present at home.
“Hey daughter, I noticed you’ve dropped a wet towel on the bed, it can end up smelling musty if it’s left there all day. Did you notice it there too?
She shakes her head and looks confused.
Which I’m taking as ‘OK, it won’t happen again’.
That was Step 1: The Mention from Jonathan Raymond’s 5 step Accountability Dial.
It’s often less about how safe people feel and more about how clear the team are on what is acceptable. If the team feel very safe in telling sexist jokes – we don’t need them to feel less safe, instead we need the bar raised on what is OK and what isn’t.
I achieve a lot in my business and in life without SMART goals. I know, right. I’m a coach – I should be the number one goal setter in all the lands. But I find traditional methods make me feel crap by March because they don’t dig deep enough.